Fabby, one of my social media friends, told me, “Roma and I be friends on social media. After talking for a few days, I learned about her relationship. She has a boyfriend but talks to me everyday. Well, I don’t know why she is talking to me daily. Honestly, I don’t want to be a cause for their breakup.”
Though every case is unique, the situation remains the same. If your situation is similar to Fabby’s, you might wonder why a girl talks to you every day even though she has a boyfriend. There could be many reasons why she does so. In this article, I will share 11 possible explanations for that.
She Has a Boyfriend but Talks to Me Everyday: 11 Possible Reasons
#1. She’s bored with her current relationship:
If she finds herself no longer challenged or stimulated by her current partner, she may look elsewhere for conversation. This is especially likely if she feels like she’s in a relationship rut and isn’t sure how to get out of it.
Also, she may be talking to you because she finds it easier to talk to someone who isn’t emotionally involved in her life.
#2. She’s not getting enough attention from her boyfriend:
If her boyfriend is neglecting her or not giving her the attention she needs, she may start talking to other people to make up for it. This can be a sign that her current relationship is not meeting her needs. She may be looking for someone to listen to her and understand her better.
Additionally, she may be looking for a confidante with whom to discuss her relationship issues, as this can help take the pressure off of dealing with them alone.
#3. She’s attracted to you:
She may talk to you because she’s attracted to you and enjoys your company. Also, if she has been single for a while, talking to you may bring back some of the excitement and butterflies that come with starting a new relationship.
If she’s displaying these behaviours, it may indicate that she wants to date you. Just remember not to disrespect her current relationship or lead her on if you’re not interested.
#4. She’s looking for validation:
Sometimes, people in relationships look for validation from outside sources when they feel insecure or uncertain about their current relationship status. She may be talking to you because she is seeking affirmation that she still has options and could be with someone else if she wants to.
In this case, you also remember to keep things platonic and not make her feel like you are interested in getting together with her. I handled a case where the girl contacted the boy regularly for 7 months but didn’t set a date. The intention of the girl was just to validate.
#5. She’s testing the waters:
She may be talking to you to explore a potential relationship with you without risking her current one. She may be using you as a safety net, so to speak, if things don’t work out with her current boyfriend.
This situation demands mindfulness. Don’t give her any false hope or mistakenly lead her on. She needs to figure out what relationship is best for herself without you clouding her judgment. This is also one of the reasons girlfriends yell at their boyfriends.
#6. You have similar interests:
If you share some common interests, it can be enjoyable to talk to someone about them. For example, if she loves a certain band you also like, it can be nice to talk about their latest album or tour. She may be looking for someone to connect with on this level and chat about shared interests without the pressure of dating.
This is especially true if she doesn’t share these interests with her current partner.
#7. She’s looking for advice:
“She has a boyfriend but wants to be friends!”
Sometimes, people will turn to friends for advice when they’re stuck in a difficult situation. She may be talking to you because she wants your opinion and your perspective on her relationship problems.
However, do not pressure her into making decisions that she’s not comfortable with. She needs to make her own decisions about her relationship and life without outside interference. Advise her just like a friend.
#8. You’re a good listener:
We all like talking to people who are good listeners because it makes us feel heard and understood. If you’re a good listener, she may enjoy talking to you more than she does talking to her boyfriend (who may not be as good at listening).
Additionally, some people prefer talking to their friends instead of their partners because they don’t have to worry about offending them or being judged. She may feel more comfortable confiding in you than with her partner.
#9. You make her laugh:
Sometimes, people talk to others because it’s fun and entertaining. She may find talking to you more enjoyable than talking to her boyfriend for this very reason. She wants someone who makes her laugh and lightens the mood when she’s feeling down or overwhelmed.
Having a funny conversation can also be a great way to break up the monotony of her day-to-day routine. She may seek you out when she needs a break from reality and wants to let loose for a bit.
#10. She trusts you:
Trust is important in any relationship. She may be talking to you because she feels safe and secure when she’s around you. She knows that she can tell you anything without feeling judged or humiliated.
If this is the case, it’s best to respect her trust and not betray it by blabbing about your conversations with other people. She needs to feel secure in your friendship, and you mustn’t break her trust.
#11. She just wants someone to talk to:
If she’s feeling lonely or disconnected from the people in her life, it can be comforting to have someone new to talk to. She may be looking for someone who will just listen and be present with her without trying to fix her problems or give her advice.
It’s possible that talking to you fills some sort of void in her life and gives her a feeling of a connection she may not otherwise have. She can talk to you without worrying about expectations or pressure.
I think you should watch this video to learn more about the signs she has a boyfriend but likes you:
FAQs on She Has a Boyfriend but Talks to Me Everyday
How can you tell if a girl likes you but has a boyfriend?
It can be tough to tell if a girl likes you, especially if she already has a boyfriend. However, there are some telltale signs she has a boyfriend but likes you.
For starters, she may go out of her way to talk to you or spend time with you. She may also touch you more than necessary, make prolonged eye contact, or stare at you when you’re not looking.
“She never talks about her boyfriend around me.” If this is the case, it can be a sign that she’s interested in you. She may not talk about her boyfriend around you because she doesn’t want to acknowledge his existence.
She may be trying to distance herself from him so she can focus her attention on you. Additionally, if she talks about other men when she’s with you and avoids talking about her boyfriend, this could also be a sign that she’s interested in you.
Additionally, she may act jealous when you talk to other girls or try to find ways to be alone with you. If you notice any of these behaviours, it’s possible that the girl likes you but is trying to hide it because she doesn’t want to cheat on her boyfriend. Of course, the only way to be sure is to ask her directly.
Why does she flirt with me if she has a boyfriend?
“She has a boyfriend but flirts with me.”
You can’t help but wonder why she flirts with you even though she has a boyfriend. Maybe she’s just friendly and likes to talk to people. Or perhaps she’s trying to make her boyfriend jealous. She may also be trying to test out her power and see how far she can push it.
On the other hand, she could be genuinely interested in you and looking for ways to move on from her current relationship. She may feel stuck in a rut with her boyfriend, so she’s flirting with you as an escape route.
What does it mean when a girl talks to you every day?
“Girl texts me but has boyfriend!”
When a girl talks to you every day, it could mean a lot of things. Maybe she likes you and is trying to get to know you better. Or, she could simply enjoy your company and enjoys talking to you.
It could also be that she needs someone to talk to and sees you as a good friend. If a girl talks to you every day, it’s definitely worth paying attention to see if there are any other signs that she might be interested in you.
For example, does she touch you when she talks or laughs at your jokes? If so, there’s a good chance that she likes you. You may wonder to know that even an ex-girlfriend may miss her ex-boyfriend. So, don’t take anything seriously so quickly.
On the other hand, if she doesn’t seem interested in anything beyond friendly conversation, then it’s probably best not to get your hopes up. Ultimately, only time will tell for sure what a girl’s intentions are.
Should I stop talking to her if she has a boyfriend?
The question of whether or not to talk to someone who already has a boyfriend can be a tough one. On the one hand, it’s perfectly normal to feel drawn to someone who is already spoken for. After all, we can’t control who we’re attracted to.
But on the other hand, respect the fact that this person is already in a relationship. So what should you do if you find yourself attracted to someone who has a boyfriend?
There’s no easy answer, but one thing to consider is how your actions might affect the other people involved. If you’re thinking about pursuing a relationship with someone who is already attached, be honest with yourself and with them about your intentions.
Are you willing to risk hurting the person you’re interested in and their current partner? If not, it might be best to step back and respect their commitment. But if you’re confident that everyone involved knows what they’re getting into, then go ahead and follow your heart.
You also must be aware that her boyfriend may start hating you or try to hurt you anyway. However, I always recommend setting a boundary and respecting the relationship of other people. If you see she’s trying to cross the lines; then it’s up to you how you want to handle that.
Conclusion:
These are just some potential reasons she may be talking to you even though she has a boyfriend. Remember that every situation is unique and needs to be handled with care. She may be in a difficult spot, and it’s best not to pressure her into making decisions before she’s ready. Respect her relationship, and don’t give her mixed signals.